The past few years have been challenging for me and
our family to say the least. It has been tough, but times of testing
are where character is formed. I have held on to that even when I
haven't seen any other benefit.
However, I have been struggling recently with how
much I have actually grown through all this. The worst possible outcome
would be where I spent years going to hell and back only to find that I
forgot to pick up what I was there to get.
So how do you measure maturity? How do you determine that a difficult
experience has molded you for the better?
I am in the middle of this, so my thoughts are most likely half baked, but this helps me finish them out.
1. Ask people who have known you the whole time. A
lot of change is slow. And being that I am eternally self-present it is
hard to notice gradual change. Asking friends or family for their
perspective shines light on things from a different
angle.
2. Think back to what you were struggling with back
then (whenever that was). The questions I was asking five years ago
were probably quite a bit different than what I am asking now. Those
questions may look silly to me now, or not. One
example that springs to mind was about four years ago I was very
frustrated with having to help around the house as much as I was. I
specifically was annoyed at having to do the dishes. I had to be asked
every time and I almost always had a bad attitude about
it. I don't know exactly where things changed, but I don't have a bad
attitude about it now and I almost never have to be asked. In fact at
this point doing dishes is a stress relief.
3. What are your dreams? As you mature your dreams
and ambitions will shift. You will develop a stronger understanding of
what is important and that will change how you view success. Even over
the past few months my career goals have shifted
some. Not more or less ambitious, but prioritizing different things.
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