Monday, March 14, 2016

Intentional Conversation

Today's thoughts come from "Find Out Anything from Anyone, Anytime" by James Pyle and Maryann Karinch. The title seems a bit combative, but it is really about how to ask good questions.

There is a lot to asking good questions. Here are three tips to asking more productive questions.

1. Only ask one question at a time. Now this seems like a simple thing, and it is, but it is amazing how often people ask a barrage of questions. This almost guarantees that the person being asked will not answer them all to the questioners satisfaction. They will most likely pick the one they like the most and answer that. Even if they want to answer them all chances are they will miss some.

2. Avoid Yes/No questions. Most of the time when you ask someone a yes or no question they will expound on the answer and give you more, but if the person is distracted or otherwise unmotivated to respond you will end up with a one word answer. Asking open ended who/what/when/where/why/how questions forces more thought and opens the way for a more illuminating response.

3. Ask "what else?" When you want to know how someone is feeling or what they did at school you don't have to settle for the initial response they give you. Asking "what else" can go a long way to finding out a more complete picture of what is going on. Doing tech support I learned that this was a valuable tool. The customer would give a single issue that they were dealing with and many times I discovered later that there were other issues that they knew about that they didn't tell me. So when I kept pushing and asking what else until they said "that's it" I ended up understanding much more about where they were in regards to their problem so I could fix it. It save me a lot of time on multiple occasions.

There is a lot more to asking good probing questions than you might think. Taking the time to evaluate how you question can go a long way to improving the information you get.

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