Assumptions

Assumptions, you annoy me.

No seriously, go away.

I did come to a realization the other day though, I am not responsible if people make assumptions about me. I tend to take them as my fault "this is what I have led people to believe..." but I am no longer carrying that. I tend to go back and forth between oversharing, and being extremely quiet. But, I don't pretend to have it all together. I have done that in the past, and I am so freakin' over that.

So, if people make assumptions about me and I am not intentionally putting up a front, it's not my fault. Only in very rare circumstances will I share if my kids did something that frustrated me or if I was mad at Mark. (I far more readily share if I made a mistake, as I feel that is my story I can share) I might mention there was a fight, but that is about it unless it is very private and with a close friend. Or, I am not acting on my convictions that day, which happens far too frequently.

This seems to have lead to a lot of "you have the perfect marriage" etc. I have an awesome marriage (*cough* now) but it is far from perfect and I have no objection with sharing about our struggles in a constructive manner.

To be fair, there are quite a few things I do that lends itself lovely to assumptions. I did a super restrictive crunchy diet with my daughter. I was homeschooled, and I  (currently at least) homeschool. I enjoy the occasional craft with my kids, and tend to post about them. That is actually one of the many reasons I am taking a break from social media. If I share my best moments, cause they were fun, that's not really a good reflection of my life. If I share my worse moments, as made popular by the "keep it real" movement, then that isn't really a good reflection of my life either. Social media can only see a snippet and worse or best, it is not reflective.

Note: Please know this is why I am taking a break from social media. Emphasis on it being my own personal decision. 

Also, I have made more than my share of assumptions about others and it bit me in the butt. I have been a fool more times than I care to count "Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions."
Across the board, made about me, or me making it about others I have learned there is nothing redeemable about assumptions.

So, seriously, assumptions. Go away.