Everybody has a "thing". Something they know a bunch about and will talk for hours about it given the chance. Sometimes though I hear people say things like "oh don't get Jim started" or "Don't encourage him". That's not nice. Even if the topic is silly, or a conspiracy theory, or just boring, if it is that persons "thing" it is tied deeply into their interests and probably into their identity to some extent.
Discouraging them or shutting them down or ignoring that part of them can be very hurtful. And if it is done regularly and consistently it can push the person into themselves and damage their view of the value they have.
Showing some interest, even if you know nothing about the topic, and giving them a chance to share their knowledge can go a long way in building a bond and encouraging them. It is fun to watch their face light up as they get to share their passion. Especially if it isn't something they get to do much.
So be a friend. Listen. Even if it isn't your thing.
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